I could not have said it better…

Life goes on. Today marks two weeks since my sister’s tragic, sudden death. My family’s emotional roller coaster ride is starting to level out, but nonetheless, we still feel like sheets hanging on the line – in a cloudy sky – we know the rain might come at any moment.

Don’t you love this photo of my 18 month-old grand niece, Helena?

I always like to include a visual in my posts and somehow this one seemed to suit. As you read on, I think you’ll understand why.

But, but, but – this post will make more sense – if you first click on this link: http://steveinmexico.blogspot.com/

You’ll find yourself at one of my favourite Mexico blog sites. The author, Steve Cotton, is from Oregon but he lives in Barra de Navidad, Jalisco. He has been blogging since 2007 – and even though we have few opportunities to visit in person – we have become good friends through our blogs.  Today his post is a lament for the demise of another blog, The Mexile.

Steve is an excellent writer, and so is The Mexile’s creator, Gary Denness. These two have spent thousands upon thousands of hours constructing some of the best posts I’ve ever read about life in Mexico. Their styles are as different as their content, their wit and their nationalities.

Another long-time blogger I admire is Richard Grabman at The Mex Files – he verges on irreverent – but what he writes is true.  A relative newcomer in the Mexico blogosphere is Mike Polischuk. His site, Traveling in a Confused World is more of a photography and architectural blog, yet his commentary is adroit.

But I digress – getting back to Gary – his final offering reads:

Fifteen years, two months and twenty one days ago I wrote my first blog post. Today, I write the last. It’s been fun – mostly – but these days I seem to blog largely for the sake of blogging. And too much of it involves typing angrily into the internet with little real purpose. I wrote that first post as an optimistic 30 year old, about to embark on a backpacking trip of a lifetime through Mexico, full of wonder at the world surrounding me. I write today as a slightly jaded 45 year old, rather fed up with the amount of ignorance and prejudice that has come to the fore, and unconvinced that the planet is heading in the right direction. 

I could not have said it better. The world has changed dramatically in the past decade and a half. And between the ages of 30 and 45, people take quantum leaps in their assessment of how to best spend their time. So I understand why Gary has decided to quit blogging. I too have almost done so. A few times.

I am not a great blogger. I do know my topic and when I’m on a roll, I think I can be entertaining. I come across emotionally, but really, I self-censor a lot. Often my Canadian self is too polite and my Mexican side is too respectful to fully tell it like I see it. I feel as though I skirt around what I want to say and I pointlessly worry that my opinions will come off as trite. So, I tone it down. This tendency does not lead to satisfied writer syndrome – to the contrary – it brings on full-blown angst. This in time leads to burn out. I do not want this to happen to me. I want to enjoy blogging – I want to continue – but it looks as though I will have to make some changes (again)

Steve and Richard, I hope you’ll continue to enrich my reading list, as you have done for many years. Mike, please keep showing your insightful photos.

Gary, I suspect you’ll regroup and take another kick at the can – if you do come up with a new platform – please send me the link. Good luck to you!

Good luck to us all, actually. Let’s keep bringing it on home as best we can. Like little Helena – gripping the ring with her teeth – as she bravely crawls through the spiralling maze.


Published by Changes in our Lives

I am originally from Canada but have lived in Mexico since 1976. My husband is from Merida, Yucatan and we raised our family here. We both worked for many years at Tecnologia Turistica Total (TTT), the tourism, language and multimedia college we founded for local and international students. Now retired, we enjoy spending time with family and friends, My other interests include spending time with freinds, reading, painting, cooking and travel.

12 thoughts on “I could not have said it better…

  1. Thank you for the kind words. Without your blog, Merida would have been a mystery to me. I suspect I will keep writing for a bit.

    As for the feeling of trite results, I often feel the same. And I know why it happens to me. If I choose a political topic where I think I might have some insight, I start pulling my punches in the vain hope I will not offend anyone. In the process, my opinion sounds half-baked, and the people I feared I would offend are doubly offended — now with good reason. I have decided whenever I cannot be bluntly honest, I will simply not write on the topic.


    1. Because I have lived in Merida for 40+ years, my take on situations differs from that of most expats. Many speak very little Spanish so it is challenging for them to understand how local people feel about events that so impact their lives. Mexico has a complex society and a long history. Like you, I try to steer away from controversy but there are times when I feel I need to say “something” … but I get tangled up in PC-ness, which makes me feel quite uncomfortable. I probably have to learn to be a bit more aloof (which is not what bloggers do.


  2. “…as she bravely crawls through the spiralling maze.” Thank you for that. And for the photograph.

    Joanna, while I braced myself for your possible blogging resignation, and would have respectfully understood (I am not entitled to your gifts/offerings), what a relief to read you are going to keep blogging. Thank you for not playing small, for being safely vulnerable, and for leaving some bread crumbs for us to follow. (“And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.” –Marianne Williamson)

    Thank you! for generously sharing these other inspiring and interesting bloggers with us, otherwise might never have found them, and thank you for the time and emotional and spiritual energy you put into your work and blog. (“We are no longer ambitious for ourselves, but are rather inspired by the vision of a healed world.” –Marianne Williamson)

    “A miracle worker is an artist of the soul. There’s no higher art than living a good life. An artist informs the world of what’s available behind the masks we all wear. That’s what we’re all here to do.” –Marianne Williamson
    I think that describes you, Joanna. Again, grateful.

    A musical-healing journey-offering that came to me while reading your post, gently passing to you:

    Take care.


    1. Harold, thank you for your thoughtful and supportive comment. This is a strange time in my life. I have gratefully reached some personal milestones and I am also forced to accept situations that I do not wish for. This makes me vulnerable… a state that leads to much self-reflection. But I do hope this changes soon. It will be nice when life lightens up a bit.


      1. Yes. Hope to be home soon!!! (Doing everything I can to “make it so” as Captain Jean-Luc Picard would say.) 🙂


      2. Wow, how cool, and The Pickled Onion looks fantastic!! I can’t wait to go there, and also explore the surrounding area! (To boldly go where so many have long ago gone before.) 🙂
        We are watching Next Gen now, in order, one every other day or so, after first doing that with the original series/movies. A real treat, and they are remastered beautifully.


  3. Joanna,
    I’m very sorry to hear about your sister’s tragic passing away. When terrible things happen, we are reminded how precious are the moments we spend with out family and our loved ones, and how unimportant are all those things we do for ego. I only saw your post now. I hope in those days of grieving you were surrounded by family and friends.

    Thank you for including me in your list of Mexico bloggers, I really appreciate your kind words.
    Hope to reconnect in happier times,


    1. How kind of you to write. My sister died so suddenly and all our family was left feeling like floundering fish. I could not control my emotions because my confusion and disbelief were so overwhelming. Anne was only 60. And this Christmas season, we were so busy that I still didn’t have time to digest “the Holidays without Anne”. But with the New Year, I can feel myself getting closer… Acceptance of such huge loss is a long process.

      I enjoy your blog even though I have not been commenting much as of late. I wish I’d met you when you were in Yucatan… if you ever come back this way, be sure to let me know. My best regards to you and your family. I hope you receive an abundance of life’s goodness in 2019.


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