Remembering my sister




Anne, Barb, Cathy and Joany, in Kamloops about 5 years ago.


For Anne

June 2, 1958 – September 15, 2018.

When we celebrated your 60th, I didn’t know I’d never see you again.

Today started out so fine.

I cooked, wrote and painted;

I planned a festive lunch for Sunday.

And then the phone call came.

My brother-in-law sounded odd –

“Are you sitting down?” he asked.

A weird wind whistled in my ears.

And my breath seemed stuck.

“I am sorry to tell you,” he began –

He described a curvy road,

And a small car colliding with a bigger one.

“She didn’t make it,” he said.


Just yesterday, we were four healthy sisters –

Joany, Anne, Barb and Cathy.

And tonight, we’re only three.

How can you be gone, Anne?

Should I keep my sorrow inside?

Or allow myself to fall apart?

My movements are slow; my mind feels like mush. 

My face mirrors the pain I feel.


On Monday I will travel to where Anne lies.

Barb is relieved that I’ll be there.

We’re sorry that Cathy won’t be able to come.

Will we ever get used to Anne’s absence?

We three, and our brothers,

will always miss our sister.

So will her loving husband, her two grown daughters

And the four grandchildren who were her greatest joy.

We loved you Anne. And we always will.

Published by Changes in our Lives

I am originally from Canada but have lived in Mexico since 1976. My husband is from Merida, Yucatan and we raised our family here. We both worked for many years at Tecnologia Turistica Total (TTT), the tourism, language and multimedia college we founded for local and international students. Now retired, we enjoy spending time with family and friends, My other interests include spending time with freinds, reading, painting, cooking and travel.

60 thoughts on “Remembering my sister

  1. Oh Joanna there are no words, although you so eloquently laid out your heart and loss for us.
    I am so sad for you and your family’s loss. Thinking of you as you try to wrap your head, and heart around this.


  2. Oh, Joanna — I’m so sorry. When I saw the photo you posted, at first glance, I thought you were the sister on the left – definite family resemblance. I hope you find solace being with your family through this tough time. Giving you a cyber hug. xoxo Alex


  3. Oh Joanna, my heart aches along with yours. I hope you will be surrounded by much love and may the angels who hold Anne, comfort you also. May God bless you and may you and your family somehow know she is in heavenly hands. I love you. I dont know what else to say, because words do not suffice at his time. Weep, cry, scream, whatever it takes. Much love to you, Joanna

    On Sun, Sep 16, 2018, 1:01 AM CHANGES IN OUR LIVES wrote:

    > Changes in our Lives posted: ” For Anne June 2, 1958 – September 15, > 2018. When we celebrated your 60th, little did I know that I’d not ever see > you again. Today started out so fine. I cooked, wrote and painted, I > planned a festive lunch for Sunday. And then the pho” >


    1. Thank you so much Margaret… you too have your trials now… life is good a pitching curve balls… and it is harder when we are not prepared. But deal with it… we must. My love to you too and I hope we are together (healthy and well) very, very soon


  4. We are so sorry for the loss of your dear sister Anne. What a shock for you and the family. Safe travels Joanie. love and hugs, Fran and Ted


  5. Very sorry for your loss, Joanna: You are in my prayers. My condolences to Barb and the other members of your family. I too have experienced the shock and numbness of losing someone very dear, but it will pass in time. Although it is terribly hard, God somehow gives us the strength to bear it.


  6. Dear Joanna We were so shocked to hear the sad news of Anne. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. Travel safe as you make your way here to be with your family. Love and God Bless, Ramona and Elmer.


  7. Dear Joanna, our condolences. Such a loss and in such a tragic way. You are in our hearts and your family in our prayers. José and Nabor


  8. My most sincere sympathies Joanna. May God be your strength, consolation and comfort. I send you all my love to you and your family.


  9. My dad told me last night about Anne, your family’s tragic loss is leaving us who know and love all of you saddened and holding you close in our thoughts and prayers.


  10. I am so very sorry for your loss. Annie was a dear friend and hearing this news was devastating. I loved her so very much and I am so going to miss our gabfests as she called it. Holding you all close to my heart.


  11. Dear Joanna I am so very sorry. Sending muy abrazos through the ethers to Anne and her family. May she go with God, and may her angels walk her all the way home. Bless you all.


  12. Joanna,

    Jan and I send you our condolences on the death of your sister. Such an unexpected event and I cannot imagine the shock and pain you and your family must be experiencing. Time will be your friend. We haven’t spent time together recently but you’re always in my heart. A big hug to you and Barb from Mérida


    1. Thank you Juanita… . you and Jan are often in mine. Schedules and commitments do not allow time for all we want to do… I am still in Canada for another week. Most details have been taken care of but leavetaking is not easy. Tomorrow we will have a joint-party for two of my grandnieces who had birthdays during this difficult time. But when I am home again, we should make a point to get together one evening.


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